Category: Getting to Know You
How honest are you?
Do you tell someone about some things that they need to know even it ends up bad? Do you take a risk to tell that person whats really going on even if it destroys his/her day? If you are honest how strait forward are you?
I like to meet new people and all but as far as I know, I’m not telling anyone totally everything. I mean I’m open to lots of doscausions but I don’t share things that aren’t supoed to be share. Like telling a friend that some people thinks some thing bad about that friend. Well I’m honest but sometimes not to the point that I’m hurting some one if I tell them whats really happening
I’ll tell them in the right time but not when they have a bad mood.
How about you how honest are you?
Well, it all depends on the situation. Using your examples, it depends on how bad it will go and how much the other person's day will be trashed. I would probably shy away from letting someone know that their partner is cheating on them because that tends to create more trouble than it fixes. However, I would tell them what I thought of their partner even if I didn't like whoever that is.
I am known for being less than subtle and for telling my friends what they need but don't want, to hear.But over the ywears I've developed some sense of caution and a smidgeon of tact,smile .Hmmm If there were nasty rumour circulating about a friend I'd move hell and earth to uncover the truth, no matter how unpleasant, if it was evil poisonous slander, I'd threaten to sue..
I try to be as honest as possible because I don't like being lied to. I don't like telling "technical truths" either, because though someone is technically telling me the truth, it's not the whole truth and I still consider it lying. I don't like keeping secrets or having secrets kept from me when it comes to my really close loved ones. If by honest you mean how opinionated, I am very opinionated, LOL. It's gotten me into trouble in the past, but I think I've learned to control what to say and when to say it and who to say it around. I think being honest is important, but it is also important to exercise a bit of tact. That doesn't mean sugar coating everything; it just means taking the other person's feelings into consideration. *SMILE* I'm rambling now, haha.
--Allie
Depends on the person. IF it is a very good friend of mine or my parents or my boyfriend, then yes. For example I tell my friends that I hurt myself so that they are not too shocked if it happens. Even if I risk they might say i'm crazy and won't talk to me anymore.
Dolphin, you sound a lot like me. In general, I'm very honest and opinionated. Occasionally if soeone asks a very direct question, and I feel it's none of their business (especially if it's a family member), I might lie to keep the peace. I don't generally tell white lies to make people feel better. Instead, I say something positive that is true, or tell them how they could improve something if it isn't so good.
Yup, that's how I am ... *GRIN*
Well honestly, it depends on how much I trust the other person. But usually I am honest.
It's always better to be honest about everything, even if it hurts, because the truth never fails to show itself. I like this question because it draws out the importance, influence and power of words, i.e., "the triune dynamo." lolSometimes I tell persons that I consider sincere and respectful something very personal about myself, and the confession can be negative or positive, just to see how they react, and after doing so, I learn from this experience how others view me. It's a part of learning and in a way it's the only way one can learn about oneself and about how one's personality fares in this emotional world. Telling lies for the same purpose can be very interesting too. For example, I've told lies to persons who have a reputation for being caring and sensitive and often they pass the test that I put them through. It's a good way of proving the genuineness of a person. It's also a good way to learn about a person you're interested in knowing. I've done this with some of the users here, and it's such a comforting thing for a skeptic such as myself to discover sincere and genuine people still living in the world. I mean, just imagine if you lie to a kid; "Hey kid, you wanna see me jump off the bridge? I'll do it." If the kid answers: "Go for it!" this tells you a lot about the little bastard. He's either been exposed so repeatedly to lies that he knows you're just taunting, or he's a little devil. But if the kid remains quiet, he's either letting you know you've just scared the crap outa him, or he's wondering whether or not you'll indeed jump off at his command; he's most likely acutely aware about the weight and possible effect of his words. And if you're well-informed about certain things, then you can really have some fun with people; you can go into great detail about a status you don't have (like being wealthy lol) if you want to test someone who's made the claim of valuing modesty, or you can test someone who's made the claim of being cold-hearted by pretending to be an assassin for hire. Don't you think it'll be interesting to see whether or not their claims are true? lol You're gonna have to know a whole lot though, as much as wise old Solomon. I look at it as a way of staying safe and sane. Believe me; it's not hypocrisy. lol You gotta play the chameleon...or be "all things to all men"...lol...
Well somehow I lied to my parents about sneaking food a few days ago. Lol. Still, usually I am honest. Usually. I wish I was more honest to my parents. Don't ask me why I am not.
I am bruterally honest.
I am most of the time honest, as I believe that friends are ot made if a erson lie.
I am honest. Maybe to honest at times. I don't like people who tell lies even small ones. I am a serious person over all. I think being honest is the best even if it hurts at times.
I'm one of those who tell it like it is, even if truth is hurtful but hey lying is just as hurtful. I don't like being lied to or anything like that. For EXAMPLE and a good one at that. If someone has a problem with me or anything they don't like about me I want them to just tell me what the deal is rather than going behind my back telling someone else. If I'm told the truth more than likely I'll have some respect for you only cuz you told me the truth, it's the backstabbers I have no respect for.
That's mainly what I wanted to get off my chest sicne were on the subject of honesty and such. Other than that I'm honest with you as long as your honest with me.
I'm totally brutally honest.
No, I lied.
Bob